Couples

Therapy with couples is aimed at reducing stress in relationships by creating more secure attachment bonds.  Our attachment system stays with us from childhood throughout our lifespan, and romantic partners assume the role of primary attachment figures for many.  As is the case with families, patterns of interaction, a dance, is created which balances intimacy and independence.  The primary goal for all couples, however, remains the same and includes joy, love, and connection.

Goals of therapy:

• To expand and re-organize key emotional responses - the music of the
  • attachment dance.
• To foster the creation of a secure bond between partners, creating a safe
  • haven and healing environment in the relationship.
• To create new cycles of bonding interactions and replace negative cycles
  • such as pursue-withdraw or criticize-defend.

As is the case with children, negative behaviors are symptoms and coping strategies created in response to resolving and expressing underlying emotions.  When underlying emotions, fears, and anxieties are explored, problem-solving can occur and both partners can then work to create change.  Research has shown this approach to show more promise and efficacy than therapies aimed at mere behavioral modification.